Expanding the Definition of Intimacy: Two Slow Sex Techniques to Challenge Your Perception of Lovemaking

Morning Sex

I highly recommend this “Morning Sex” technique, especially for couples over the age of 30. As the name suggests, it involves making love in the morning.

Make good use of the “morning erection” and gently remove your sleeping partner’s underwear. Use a side position for insertion. To facilitate smooth penetration, use massage oil as a lubricant. After a slow insertion, avoid vigorous thrusting. The primary objective is to “savor the feeling of becoming one.” Instead of focusing on hip movements, hold your partner tightly and gently sway your body back and forth.

This alone will create a flow of sexual energy and elicit subtle sensory excitement from your partner. Here’s the key: savor this subtle sensory excitement until the end. In other words, don’t pursue the immediate pleasure of climax or ejaculation. Younger partners often give in to their spontaneous desire and engage in selfish, pleasure-driven sex, which is a big mistake.

If you’re an experienced man, ejaculating at this point might leave you feeling depleted. Try not to focus on ejaculation but instead derive the “vitality for the day” from your partner.

Let go of the rigid notion of “foreplay→insertion→ejaculation” and embrace freedom. Isn’t that the privilege of middle-aged and older men?

 

Serial Sex

I don’t often ejaculate during lovemaking.

What happens if you don’t ejaculate during sex? It simply means you can continue next time. When you don’t ejaculate, the sexual energy generated during lovemaking continues to accumulate within you. The next time you engage in sexual activity, your desires and sensations will start from a higher level. Notably, the content of lovemaking will also become more profound, leading to a greater sense of fulfillment. It’s like watching a TV series; because of the lingering effect from the previous episode, you eagerly anticipate the next one.

I’ve named this method of prolonged non-ejaculatory lovemaking “Serial Sex” and highly recommend it for middle-aged and older men.

The greatest benefit of Serial Sex is that it allows you to accumulate sexual energy like a savings account, sustaining intense sexual desire similar to when you were younger. If a man is always highly aroused during lovemaking, it’s also a delightful experience for the woman.

One way to enjoy Serial Sex is by dividing the complete lovemaking process into several stages, which typically take two or three hours.

For example, on the first day, focus on passionate kissing as the main foreplay. On the next day, indulge in oral sex on each other’s genitals. On the third day, a little foreplay is enough to dive straight into passionate lovemaking. That’s a general idea. Even on the third day, ejaculation is not necessary. The notion that “sex isn’t complete without ejaculation” is a strange belief. Neither of you needs to be fixated on “ejaculation” or “orgasm.” The sole purpose should be pure enjoyment of sexual intimacy, freeing yourselves from unnecessary pressure or burden.

Just as work methods adapt with accumulated experience, sexual pleasure evolves with age and changes in physical stamina. Regardless, embracing the ability to enjoy the moment is always wise.

I strongly urge you to explore the realm of Serial Sex with your beloved partner and create your continuous series of passionate lovemaking.